This link came across my Facebook this morning, geared to Staffy owners, however, some of these points are equally applicable to you, your SO and your relationship. So apt are some of these, I thought I would recreate them here.
- Don’t be upset when I jump for joy when you come through the door.
Our relationship might only span five years. You are what makes that time enjoyable. It’s hard on me when you go away. If I no longer jump for joy, I’ve been dismissed too often.
- Give me time to understand what you want from me.
I don’t always get it right on the first try, but I promise I’m trying as hard as I can. I need clear direction though.
- Give me your trust.
Just like I trust you, I need you to trust me, too.
- Don’t be angry with me for too long.
And please don’t ignore me – it feels like punishment. You have your friends and family to keep you happy and entertained. I just have you.
5. Take me inside when the weather gets bad.
You don’t have to let me sit next to you on the couch, but your company when it squalls is delightful.
- Talk to me.
Sure, we don’t often speak the same language, but the sound of your voice brightens my whole day.
- Remember that I’ll never forget how you treat me.
Show me that men are made of love, not pain. And don’t ever let me forget it.
- Come outside with me.
The sights, sounds, and scents of nature are some of my greatest pleasures in life. I don’t care if we play, go for a walk, or just sit under a tree together — I want you to experience them with me.
- Let me make new friends.
Introduce me to your friends, family, even your work mates. We might not get along in the end, but having the opportunity for some more friends makes my life that much brighter.
- Give me a treat every once in a while.
Food is one of my greatest pleasures in life. I know you want me to be healthy, but please, don’t feel the need to supply unhealthy food choices every day.
- Please don’t hurt me.
I have been alone too long. I want to cover you in sloppy, wet kisses, hug you, pinch your bum. Play together, laugh, have fun. Lack of attention and affection is detrimental to my happiness.
- Understand when I need my alone time.
I love you more than anything, but even though it’s rare, I don’t always want to play or cuddle. Don’t be sad if I’d rather sleep at my home instead of in your bed on hot summer nights, and be understanding if I don’t want to play right now. Chances are I’m tired.
- Show me your world.
Your house and yard might be the only places I ever see unless you let me come with you. A trip to the pet store, the park, or even just a ride in the car is exhilarating for me. I can’t wait to see what you want to show me. Let some of these places be new to both of us and not always things you’ve already done. Sometimes, let me show you MY world.
- Teach me new things.
Learning new tricks keeps my mind active, but most of all, it gives me a way to impress you. I love learning something new, looking up at you, and seeing how proud of me you are.
- Let me get dirty once in a while.
Your world is outside, but I thrive in both environments. Sometimes I find a lot of mud or creeks are too much for me, so please be patient when I get all icked out. I understand if you don’t want to deal with such fussiness, but I don’t like being wet or cold.
- Pay attention if I don’t seem like myself.
It might seem like I’m just being lazy or stubborn, but I might not be feeling well. I can’t get help for myself, and I need you to look out for me. If you get short answers, and I’m not tired, there is a good chance I am trying to process things. Ask me if I’m ok and if I need space, but please don’t forget about me.